Controversial Opinion on Tarek Fatah's Death
Plus: Juwayria prevented from seeing her father, new Abu Nasiha advice column and more
Today’s lede might ruffle your feathers and we don’t like writing it but that’s why it needs to be said. It’s not Submission if your Ego enjoys it.
We’re also talking about children harmed by vengeful ex-wives, our new advice column and some updates to our website.
About Tarek Fatah’s Death
Tarek Fatah is dead and Muslims online are celebrating. Here’s something they haven’t considered.
Those are a people who have passed away. Theirs is that which they earned, and yours is that which ye earn. And ye will not be asked of what they used to do.
Juwayria Prevented from Seeing Her Father
Juwayria and her brother Kareem are having a rough time. Their mum won’t let Juwayria or Kareem see their father, grandparents or siblings. They haven’t had any contact with them in over nine months.
Juwayria’s mother is using her and Kareem as a weapon to hurt her ex-husband, their father. Even though there’s a court order permitting Juwayria and Kareem to see their father, her mother couldn’t care less.
Alhamdulillah, while everyone congregated for Eid prayers Juwayria happened to see her father and she sprinted into his arms. Listen to Juwayria’s father tell the story.
Why aren’t Muslim women told these facts?
63% of all youth suicides are from fatherless homes
80% of Rapists are from fatherless homes
71% of all high school dropouts are from fatherless homes
80% of all youths in prison are from fatherless homes
85% of children who have behavioural disorders are from fatherless home
90% of all homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes
Girls raised without their father suffer from low self-esteem
Girls with low self-esteem seek validation through promiscuous sex
Girls who engage in frequent promiscuous sex suffer from mental health
In the past we’ve attempted to write about this issue. We wanted to tell real stories but one problem kept coming up. Men weren’t willing to tell their stories and even if they did, they only wanted to do so anonymously and weren’t willing to go public. Thankfully, men like Juwayria’s dad are finally speaking up.
Alhamdulillah, there’s some good news. Organizations like Muslim Father’s Support Forum have been doing God’s work to help the children who’re abused by vengeful ex-wives when they prevent contact with their fathers. Watch Hamza Tzortzis interview the founder of MFSF here. Is there a similar organization in the US, Canada or Australia? I haven’t heard of one. Let me know if you have.
Abu Nasiha Says…
Abu Nasiha is our new advice column for Muslim men.
Question from M:
I’m 25 years old and live in the US. I’m fit and earn a high income. I have no problems attracting women but most of the women I talk to are Westernized. I want to marry a traditional woman.
I met this girl in Sweden a few years ago and we were going to marry but it didn’t work out, because of me. But she’s been waiting for me since then hoping I’d come back. She’s religious and submissive. She knows I want her to be a mother and homemaker and she’s happy to play a supporting role. I told her I plan to marry more than one wife and she’s okay with that too.
But I haven’t decided to marry her yet because of sexual conditioning and wanting model-type looks. I don’t find her ugly, I’m just from LA (Los Angeles) and grew up around barbie dolls.
Do you think I should overlook the physical attraction part and be more practical? I want to pull the trigger because I need a woman by my side as I build my empire, but I’m not sure how much I should be emphasizing physical attraction.
Abu Nasiha’s response:
Stop being a pussy.
The way you worded your question implies you’ve been talking to this bint and stringing her along for several years. If you’re not talking to a girl’s father you’re not a serious person and you’re wasting her time and yours. The bint could’ve gotten married, had her first child by now and be pregnant with her second.
Beyond that, think about how much energy and attention you’ve given this bint over the years for NOTHING in return. This is spiritual cuckoldry, brother. You don’t want to be a cuck, do you?
And as for her looks:
Every woman hits the wall
Wife goggles are a thing (see the Pierce Brosnan quote below)
Show me the finest bint on the planet and I’ll show you a man who’s sick of her shit
Think with your big head, not your little one. And read up on second and third order effects; understanding this concept will save your life.
If you have any questions about life, work or relationships, email [email protected]. Keep your questions short and to the point. Long, rambling emails will be ignored. We are not Islamic scholars and we don’t do fatwas.