“I really want to be the woman described in this book.” – Karima on her experience reading 40 Hadith on Femininity: How to Be a Good Woman by Nabeel Azeez
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I originally found out about Nabeel while researching copywriting, which led me to his website, muslimman.com. As a Muslim woman, I found his articles about masculinity, femininity, and related subjects incredibly interesting and refreshing. After reading a few of his articles, I discovered his first book, 40 Hadith on Masculinity, and saw that he was working on 40 Hadith on Femininity. I was eagerly waiting for it.
The reason I was so motivated to buy this book is that I want to be a good Muslim woman. I am not married yet, but I truly want my future marriage to be an act of worship. I want to fulfill my purpose according to how Allah has created me, and I aspire to the great reward promised to a Muslim woman who is a good wife to her husband. I really want to serve my husband and my family when I get married, but we often lack proper guidelines nowadays.
Alhamdulillah, I come from an African family where we already learn many things about femininity. However, at the same time, I received a very westernized education through school and university. I found myself caught between these two worlds. I was raised to pursue a career and was always told I would be an independent woman. But I was also told that I would get married and have kids, so I needed to know how to take care of a home—how to cook, organize, clean, and maintain order. Initially, I wasn’t attracted to that domestic role at all. But the more I learned about my Deen (religion), the more I understood the greatness of our function as women and how Allah (Azza wa Jal) has dignified us. Learning this deeply motivated me to become a dedicated spouse and mother.
Reading 40 Hadith on Femininity makes me feel genuinely happy. I consider it my personal checklist. One chapter I particularly loved was about being a great hostess. In my Senegalese culture, hospitality—known as teranga—is incredibly important and highly regarded as an art. To find that same emphasis in Islam was wonderful.
I really want to be the woman described in this book. I want to have the eight gates of Paradise opened for me. I know that achieving this is the reward of the greatest women of this Ummah, and all I have to do is be a good wife and mother. That is my “why.”
I really appreciate how structured, organized, clear, and simple the book is. There is no confusing jargon or overly technical language; it is straightforward. It provides me with clear landmarks, helping me distinguish what comes from the Deen and how it relates to my culture.
It has been a truly great experience for me. I would highly recommend this book to any woman, whether married or unmarried, and to any Muslim woman who aspires to the greatest rewards from Allah (Azza wa Jal). He created us to serve our husbands, but through serving our husbands and families, we are ultimately serving the Ummah. We are often unaware of how great our position as women truly is. That is why I recommend this book to any Muslim woman who is willing to be that woman—one who, above all else, seeks the satisfaction of her Lord. It is a great motivator.
Barakallahu feek, Nabeel. May Allah reward you for this, as it is a great service for many women, especially those who may not have been raised in a traditional family or a culture where these values are emphasized.